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I KNOW THIS IS AN EXTREMELY SENSITIVE ISSUE BUT I FEEL IT NEEDS ATTENTION. HAVING GONE THROUGH MANY OF THE SAME SITUATIONS DESCRIBED IN THE ARTICLES LINKED ABOVE I FEEL I HAVE A LITTLE MORE EXPERTISE THAN SOME.
THE REASON THIS TOPIC HAS COME UP IS BECAUSE A FRIEND OF MINE WAS RECENTLY SCREWED BY CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT.
MY FRIEND IS A 25 YR OLD BLACK MAN WHO IS IN THE U.S. ARMED FORCES. HE WAS RECENTLY (6 MONTHS) AGO CALLED TO DUTY. HIS SON IS JUST 4 YEARS OLD AND LIVES WITH HIM SINCE THE CHILD'S MOTHER DECIDED SHE WASN'T READY TO BE A PARENT AND WANTED TO KEEP PARTYING IT UP IN LOS ANGELES. THE WHOLE WHILE HE RAISED THE BOY WITHOUT EVER ASKING FOR OR GETTING A THING.NO PUBLIC ASSISTANCE SINCE SHE WOULDN'T RELINQUISH THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE BECAUSE IT WOULD TAKE TO MUCH TIME TO DIG IT OUT. THE MOTHER'S MOTHER(GRANDMA) HAD ALWAYS STAYED IN CONTACT & BEEN INVOLVED IN THE BOY'S LIFE-GIFTS & BIRTHDAYS,ETC. BUT WHEN MY FRIEND WAS CALLED TO DUTY HE NEEDED TO FIND ARRANGEMENTS FOR HIS SON, SO GRANDMA OFFERED TO TAKE CARE OF HIM WHILE HE WAS GONE & HE WOULD SEND HER $$ (LIKE $200/WK)
NOW HERE COMES THE SITUTATION-BEING THAT MY FRIEND IS OVERSEAS HE ISN'T ABLE TO CONTACT ANYONE REGULARLY AND WHILE HE HAS BEEN GONE-GRANDMA HAD HER DAUGHTER GO TO COURT GET FULL CUSTODY & A 50% ORDER FOR CHILD SUPPORT -ALL THE SHILE NEVER MENTIONING TO FAMILY COURT HE IS IN THE MILITARY & AWAY JUST CLAIMING HIM TO BE AN ABSENT FATHER. NOW IN AFGHANISTAN HE GETS WORD HIS PAY IS BEING GARNISHED!! ALL THE WHILE HE IS STILL SENDING $200 A WEEK.
NOW HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN? A HARD-WORKING SINGLE BLACK FATHER TAKING CARE OF HIS KID & NOW HE'S A DEADBEAT DAD!!
HE'S SO DEVASTED HE DOEN'S WANT TO MAKE IT BACK-HE WILL HAVE TO FIGHT TO SEE HIS SON & HE NOW MAKE 50% LESS THAN HE DID BEFORE LEAVING HIM LESS THAN ENOUGH TO BE A SQUATTER SOMEWHERE.
I AGREE CHILDREN SHOULD BE SUPPORTED-BUT NOT AT THE EXPENSE OF DESTROYING THE FAMILY. I MEAN MILLIONAIRES FLAUNTING IT & REFUSING IS ALOT DIFFERNET THAN THE POOR STRUGGLING TO STAY POOR WHILE PAYING THE BABYS MAMA'S CAR NOTE!! GET REAL!!
SHOULDN'T A PERSON BE REQUIRED TO PROVIDE ITEMIZED DOCUMENTATION OF THE EXPENSES IN ORDER TO CLAIM THEM. THERE IS NO JUSTICE TO BE FOUND WHEN FAMILY COURTS REMAIN INDIFFERENT TO A FATHER'S RIGHTS. FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE I CAN TELL YOU THE COURTS ARE INTERESTED IN ONLY ONE THING AND THAT IS THE $$. THEY AREN'T CONCERNED WITH THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILDREN OR THE FAMILY.
JUST LIKE A PRE-NUPTIAL AGREEMENT PEOPLE NEED TO ENTER INTO A PRE-CONCEPTION AGREEMENT TO PREDETERMINE THE CHILD VISITATION & SUPPORT SINCE MOST CHILDREN WILL GROW UP IN SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES. ESPECIALLY THE POORER SEGMENT OF PEOPLE WHO SEE CHILD-REARING AS A GOVERNMENT OCCUPATION. YOU KNOW HOW MANY BABY MAMA'S HOW UP TO THEIR WELFARE APPOINTMENTS IN THE CADILLAC ESCALADE WITH THEIR HAIR & NAILS FRESHLY DONE WEARING A 2 CT DIAMOND & $300 BABY PHAT JUMPSUIT WITH $600 SHOES.
WHAT DO FATHER'S GET FOR THEIR SUPPORT?? EQUAL VISITATION?? SCHOOL PHOTOS? A WEEK LATE BIRTHDAY CARD? PHONE CALLS FOR MORE $$?
ALL THE YEARS I DID PAY CHILD SUPPORT I NEVER RECEIVED A PHOTO, A PHONE CALL OR ANY WORD AS TO THE WELL-BEING OF THE CHILD I WAS SUPPORTING.
NOW ON THE OTHER HAND A CHILD WE GAVE TO A LOVING COUPLE TO ADOPT-WITHOUT ANYTHING IN RETURN THEY HAVE SENT US ALBUMS OF PHOTOS,CARDS & VIDEOS. THEY EVEN SET UP A 800# FOR US IF WE EVER WANTED TO CALL OR VISIT SOUTH CAROLINA.
SPEAKING OF ADOPTION,ANOTHER SUBJECT I HAVE EXPERIENCED FIRST HAND. I WOULD SAY THERE ARE ALOT OF WONDERFUL FAMILIES WITH GREAT HOMES THAT WOULD PROVIDE A LOVING & NUTURING ENVIRONMENT FOR A CHILD. BUT THERE IS A SEGMENT OF AGENCIES & PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT BUY & SELL CHILDREN. WHEN WE WERE CHOSING AN AGENCY TO HELP US -SEVERAL OF THEM ASKED IF WE WOULD MOVE SOMEWHERE ELSE SO THEY COULD PAY US $$$.
WE CHOSE THE ONE THAT DIDN'T. THEY DID OFFER TO PAY ALL MEDICAL BUT WE HAD STATE MEDICADE SO NO NEED TO PAY 2X. THEY DID HELP US ON A FEW OCCASSIONS WITH UTILITIES & FOOD STAMPS.
WE CHOSE TO DO AN "OPEN" ADOPTION WHERE WE WERE PROVIDED 100'S OF PROSPECTIVE PARENTS PORTFOLIOS WITH EVERYTHING FROM FAMILY HISTORY,MEDICAL,FINANCIAL,EDUCATION & CAREER. WE THEN GOT TO SELECT WHOMEVER WE WANTED TO CALL & TALK WITH & EVENTUALLY THE COUPLE WE CHOSE CAME TO LAS VEGAS TO MEET US & MILES. THE "OPEN" ADOPTION MEANT WE COULD CONTINUE COMMUNICATING WITH THEM & THE CHILD. THEY WOULD BE REQUIRED BY THE CONTRACT TO PROVIDE 2 YEARS OF PHOTOS SUBMITTED ANNUALLY. THEY WERE @ THE HOSPITAL WHEN OUR/THEIR SON WAS BORN. YOU COULD SEE HOW MUCH LOVE THEY HAD TO OFFER & WE NEVER HAD ANY DOUBTS ABOUT OUR DECISION TO PROVIDE TWO BOYS A CHANCE AT A BETTER LIFE.
HAVING TO GIVE UP ONE OF YOUR CHILDREN IS NOT AN EASY DECISION TO MAKE BUT YOU ARE GONNA LIVE WITH IT FOREVER SO THINK IT THROUGH LONG & HARD.
WHEN I LAST VISITED IOWA I WAS PETITIONED BY THE COURT & MY BABY'S MAMA TO HAVE MY "PARENTAL RIGHTS" TERMINTED FOR MY DAUGHTER. AT FIRST THIS WAS QUITE A DEVASTATING BLOW SINCE I WAS HOPING TO RE-ESTABLISH A RELATIONSHIP. BUT AFTER SEEING HOW THINGS WORKED OUT I WOULD SAY IT WAS THE EASIEST DECISION I NEVER MADE. I DECIDED NOT TO SHOW UP TO COURT & PLAY BABY MAMA'S HEAD GAMES & JUST LET HER HAVE HER WAY & PRAY GRANDMA WOULD BE ENOUGH OF A STABILIZING FACTOR TO HELP MAKE IT THROUGH THE ROUGH STUFF. TURNS OUT I WAS RIGHT.
WELL I HOPE I DIDN'T OFFEND ANYONE AND I HOPE YOU ENJOYED MY RAMBLINGS PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT AND CLICK ON THE IMAGES TO VISIT THE WEBSITES TO LEARN MORE. DEAD BEAT DAD'S ARE VICTIMS TOO.
CONTACT ALLIANCE FOR NON-CUSTODIAL PARENTS RIGHTS (ANCPR)
I KNOW THIS IS AN EXTREMELY SENSITIVE ISSUE BUT I FEEL IT NEEDS ATTENTION. HAVING GONE THROUGH MANY OF THE SAME SITUATIONS DESCRIBED IN THE ARTICLES LINKED ABOVE I FEEL I HAVE A LITTLE MORE EXPERTISE THAN SOME.
THE REASON THIS TOPIC HAS COME UP IS BECAUSE A FRIEND OF MINE WAS RECENTLY SCREWED BY CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT.
MY FRIEND IS A 25 YR OLD BLACK MAN WHO IS IN THE U.S. ARMED FORCES. HE WAS RECENTLY (6 MONTHS) AGO CALLED TO DUTY. HIS SON IS JUST 4 YEARS OLD AND LIVES WITH HIM SINCE THE CHILD'S MOTHER DECIDED SHE WASN'T READY TO BE A PARENT AND WANTED TO KEEP PARTYING IT UP IN LOS ANGELES. THE WHOLE WHILE HE RAISED THE BOY WITHOUT EVER ASKING FOR OR GETTING A THING.NO PUBLIC ASSISTANCE SINCE SHE WOULDN'T RELINQUISH THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE BECAUSE IT WOULD TAKE TO MUCH TIME TO DIG IT OUT. THE MOTHER'S MOTHER(GRANDMA) HAD ALWAYS STAYED IN CONTACT & BEEN INVOLVED IN THE BOY'S LIFE-GIFTS & BIRTHDAYS,ETC. BUT WHEN MY FRIEND WAS CALLED TO DUTY HE NEEDED TO FIND ARRANGEMENTS FOR HIS SON, SO GRANDMA OFFERED TO TAKE CARE OF HIM WHILE HE WAS GONE & HE WOULD SEND HER $$ (LIKE $200/WK)
NOW HERE COMES THE SITUTATION-BEING THAT MY FRIEND IS OVERSEAS HE ISN'T ABLE TO CONTACT ANYONE REGULARLY AND WHILE HE HAS BEEN GONE-GRANDMA HAD HER DAUGHTER GO TO COURT GET FULL CUSTODY & A 50% ORDER FOR CHILD SUPPORT -ALL THE SHILE NEVER MENTIONING TO FAMILY COURT HE IS IN THE MILITARY & AWAY JUST CLAIMING HIM TO BE AN ABSENT FATHER. NOW IN AFGHANISTAN HE GETS WORD HIS PAY IS BEING GARNISHED!! ALL THE WHILE HE IS STILL SENDING $200 A WEEK.
NOW HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN? A HARD-WORKING SINGLE BLACK FATHER TAKING CARE OF HIS KID & NOW HE'S A DEADBEAT DAD!!
HE'S SO DEVASTED HE DOEN'S WANT TO MAKE IT BACK-HE WILL HAVE TO FIGHT TO SEE HIS SON & HE NOW MAKE 50% LESS THAN HE DID BEFORE LEAVING HIM LESS THAN ENOUGH TO BE A SQUATTER SOMEWHERE.
I AGREE CHILDREN SHOULD BE SUPPORTED-BUT NOT AT THE EXPENSE OF DESTROYING THE FAMILY. I MEAN MILLIONAIRES FLAUNTING IT & REFUSING IS ALOT DIFFERNET THAN THE POOR STRUGGLING TO STAY POOR WHILE PAYING THE BABYS MAMA'S CAR NOTE!! GET REAL!!
SHOULDN'T A PERSON BE REQUIRED TO PROVIDE ITEMIZED DOCUMENTATION OF THE EXPENSES IN ORDER TO CLAIM THEM. THERE IS NO JUSTICE TO BE FOUND WHEN FAMILY COURTS REMAIN INDIFFERENT TO A FATHER'S RIGHTS. FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE I CAN TELL YOU THE COURTS ARE INTERESTED IN ONLY ONE THING AND THAT IS THE $$. THEY AREN'T CONCERNED WITH THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILDREN OR THE FAMILY.
JUST LIKE A PRE-NUPTIAL AGREEMENT PEOPLE NEED TO ENTER INTO A PRE-CONCEPTION AGREEMENT TO PREDETERMINE THE CHILD VISITATION & SUPPORT SINCE MOST CHILDREN WILL GROW UP IN SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES. ESPECIALLY THE POORER SEGMENT OF PEOPLE WHO SEE CHILD-REARING AS A GOVERNMENT OCCUPATION. YOU KNOW HOW MANY BABY MAMA'S HOW UP TO THEIR WELFARE APPOINTMENTS IN THE CADILLAC ESCALADE WITH THEIR HAIR & NAILS FRESHLY DONE WEARING A 2 CT DIAMOND & $300 BABY PHAT JUMPSUIT WITH $600 SHOES.
WHAT DO FATHER'S GET FOR THEIR SUPPORT?? EQUAL VISITATION?? SCHOOL PHOTOS? A WEEK LATE BIRTHDAY CARD? PHONE CALLS FOR MORE $$?
ALL THE YEARS I DID PAY CHILD SUPPORT I NEVER RECEIVED A PHOTO, A PHONE CALL OR ANY WORD AS TO THE WELL-BEING OF THE CHILD I WAS SUPPORTING.
NOW ON THE OTHER HAND A CHILD WE GAVE TO A LOVING COUPLE TO ADOPT-WITHOUT ANYTHING IN RETURN THEY HAVE SENT US ALBUMS OF PHOTOS,CARDS & VIDEOS. THEY EVEN SET UP A 800# FOR US IF WE EVER WANTED TO CALL OR VISIT SOUTH CAROLINA.
SPEAKING OF ADOPTION,ANOTHER SUBJECT I HAVE EXPERIENCED FIRST HAND. I WOULD SAY THERE ARE ALOT OF WONDERFUL FAMILIES WITH GREAT HOMES THAT WOULD PROVIDE A LOVING & NUTURING ENVIRONMENT FOR A CHILD. BUT THERE IS A SEGMENT OF AGENCIES & PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT BUY & SELL CHILDREN. WHEN WE WERE CHOSING AN AGENCY TO HELP US -SEVERAL OF THEM ASKED IF WE WOULD MOVE SOMEWHERE ELSE SO THEY COULD PAY US $$$.
WE CHOSE THE ONE THAT DIDN'T. THEY DID OFFER TO PAY ALL MEDICAL BUT WE HAD STATE MEDICADE SO NO NEED TO PAY 2X. THEY DID HELP US ON A FEW OCCASSIONS WITH UTILITIES & FOOD STAMPS.
WE CHOSE TO DO AN "OPEN" ADOPTION WHERE WE WERE PROVIDED 100'S OF PROSPECTIVE PARENTS PORTFOLIOS WITH EVERYTHING FROM FAMILY HISTORY,MEDICAL,FINANCIAL,EDUCATION & CAREER. WE THEN GOT TO SELECT WHOMEVER WE WANTED TO CALL & TALK WITH & EVENTUALLY THE COUPLE WE CHOSE CAME TO LAS VEGAS TO MEET US & MILES. THE "OPEN" ADOPTION MEANT WE COULD CONTINUE COMMUNICATING WITH THEM & THE CHILD. THEY WOULD BE REQUIRED BY THE CONTRACT TO PROVIDE 2 YEARS OF PHOTOS SUBMITTED ANNUALLY. THEY WERE @ THE HOSPITAL WHEN OUR/THEIR SON WAS BORN. YOU COULD SEE HOW MUCH LOVE THEY HAD TO OFFER & WE NEVER HAD ANY DOUBTS ABOUT OUR DECISION TO PROVIDE TWO BOYS A CHANCE AT A BETTER LIFE.
HAVING TO GIVE UP ONE OF YOUR CHILDREN IS NOT AN EASY DECISION TO MAKE BUT YOU ARE GONNA LIVE WITH IT FOREVER SO THINK IT THROUGH LONG & HARD.
WHEN I LAST VISITED IOWA I WAS PETITIONED BY THE COURT & MY BABY'S MAMA TO HAVE MY "PARENTAL RIGHTS" TERMINTED FOR MY DAUGHTER. AT FIRST THIS WAS QUITE A DEVASTATING BLOW SINCE I WAS HOPING TO RE-ESTABLISH A RELATIONSHIP. BUT AFTER SEEING HOW THINGS WORKED OUT I WOULD SAY IT WAS THE EASIEST DECISION I NEVER MADE. I DECIDED NOT TO SHOW UP TO COURT & PLAY BABY MAMA'S HEAD GAMES & JUST LET HER HAVE HER WAY & PRAY GRANDMA WOULD BE ENOUGH OF A STABILIZING FACTOR TO HELP MAKE IT THROUGH THE ROUGH STUFF. TURNS OUT I WAS RIGHT.
WELL I HOPE I DIDN'T OFFEND ANYONE AND I HOPE YOU ENJOYED MY RAMBLINGS PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT AND CLICK ON THE IMAGES TO VISIT THE WEBSITES TO LEARN MORE. DEAD BEAT DAD'S ARE VICTIMS TOO.
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